Karma Cleanser - May 29 2002

Dear Karma Cleanser:
My love life is terrible. I have been divorced almost five years; all my friends have been divorced and married. I don’t even have a prospect. I had an affair with a married man about two-and-a-half years ago. ?
?Could this bad karma be messing up my love life? Please help me cleanse.

-- Lonely in Charlotte

It’s possible you’re still paying the price for your illicit fling, because Relationship Karma can be one cruel bitch. However, we suspect that your real problem here might be your social group. If you’re looking for Mr. Single-Smart-and-Successful, you probably won’t find him hanging out with the married folks or the sadsack once-married folks. Lonely is a state of mind, so maybe you should move.

Dear Karma Cleanser:
I’ve been dating someone for a while now, something like six or seven months. We seem to be doing pretty well, all things taken under consideration. We spend a lot of time together and see a lot of movies and do things generally of that nature. Neither of us seems to be head over heels in love with the other person, at least not from where I’m standing, but we get along OK and never really fight or have any bad arguments.

But recently I have started to think that maybe there is no real passion in this relationship. When I compare it to the kind of interaction I had with my ex, things really just don’t compare. With my ex, there was definitely a lot of passion, though I guess you could say it was often passion of the negative kind. I worry sometimes that the bad things and not so positive actions that came out of that relationship are haunting my current situation. The other night at a Chinese restaurant, I got a fortune cookie which actually said something like, “Be happy with the one you’re with.” Should I listen to that advice?

-- Cookie’s crumbling

Pardon us for crashing your own little pity party, but have a peek at the previous letter writer bemoaning her lack of anyone at all, passion not included. Next, let us reiterate what we said above about Relationship Karma. In your case, though, the karma is working to your advantage. You’ve finally gotten off the Drama Bus and arrived at Stable City. Sure it’s a little dull compared to the roller coaster ride you shared with your ex. That doesn’t make it bad. Besides, who are we to argue with a fortune cookie?

Been bad? Get right with the universe at karma@creativeloafing.com.??