The Sexorcist: Figuring out what you want between the sheets

__Dear Sexorcist:

My dilemma mirrors that of a recent college graduate on the hunt for that first job. Basically, no one wants you without experience, but how do you get experience when no one will take you?

__In a nutshell, I am currently dating an individual with considerably more sexual experience than myself. We’ve talked about this extensively and I’ve been honest about my limited experience. Initially, he was surprised that I, at age 40, was still finding my sexual self, but was seemingly OK with the disparity. I made it known that I’m very open to having new experiences, and he said he was willing to help me explore and find out what I like and dislike and what makes me confident sexually. The problem is, how do I tell him what I like if I haven’t had what I like? I mean, I’ve been able to express the basics of “touch me here and touch me there,” but I’m at a loss for anything more substantial. I really need some guidance on how to unearth what pleases me. Although he has suggested some new things for us to try (and we have), I really want to do my part in this area so that he doesn’t feel as though he has full responsibility to make our sex exciting, fresh and fun. Any ideas?

— Searching

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